Choosing an executor is one of the most important decisions in the estate planning process. This person, or institution, will be responsible for carrying out your wishes, managing assets, paying debts and taxes, distributing property to beneficiaries, and more.

Your first instinct may be to name your spouse, adult child, or other close family member as executor. While that decision may feel natural, it may not always the best choice. For a more effective and balanced solution, you may consider co-appointing a professional advisor alongside a trusted family member.

An executor’s duties

Your executor has a variety of important duties, including:

• Arranging for probate of your will and obtaining court approval to administer your estate (if necessary),
• Taking inventory of—and collecting, recovering, or maintaining—your assets, including life insurance proceeds and retirement plan benefits,
• Obtaining valuations of your assets where required,
• Preparing a schedule of assets and liabilities,
• Arranging for the safekeeping of personal property,
• Contacting your beneficiaries to advise them of their entitlements under your will,
• Paying any debts incurred by you or your estate and handling creditors’ claims,
• Defending your will in the event of litigation,
• Filing tax returns on behalf of your estate, and
• Distributing your assets among your beneficiaries according to the terms of your will.

For someone without financial, legal or tax expertise, these responsibilities can feel overwhelming—especially while grieving. Even highly capable family members may lack the time or experience needed to administer an estate efficiently.

Mistakes can result in delays, disputes, or even personal liability. Executors are legally responsible for acting in the best interests of the estate and its beneficiaries. If errors occur—such as missed tax deadlines or improper distributions—the executor may be held accountable.

Emotional dynamics can complicate matters

When a family member serves as sole executor, emotional tensions can arise. Sibling rivalries, blended family dynamics, or disagreements about asset values can quickly escalate.

Even when everyone has the best of intentions, beneficiaries may question decisions about timing, asset sales, or expense payments. The executor may feel caught between honoring the deceased’s wishes and preserving family harmony. Needless to say, these situations can strain relationships, sometimes permanently.

Two can be better than one

A practical alternative is to name both a trusted family member and a professional advisor, such as a CPA, estate planning attorney, or corporate fiduciary, as co-executors. This structure can offer several key benefits, such as:

Technical expertise. A professional advisor can bring knowledge of tax law, probate procedures, accounting requirements, and regulatory compliance. This reduces the risk of costly mistakes and helps ensure deadlines are met.

Objectivity. A neutral third party can help mediate disagreements and make decisions based on fiduciary standards rather than emotions. This can protect family relationships and minimize conflict.

Shared responsibility. Administering an estate can be time consuming. Dividing responsibilities allows the family member to focus on personal matters while the professional handles technical and administrative tasks.

Continuity and stability. If a family member becomes overwhelmed, ill, or otherwise unavailable, a professional co-executor can provide continuity. Estates often take months—or even years—to settle.

A balanced approach

Co-appointing a professional doesn’t mean excluding family involvement. In fact, it often enhances it. The family member remains involved in decision-making and ensures that your personal wishes and family values are honored. Meanwhile, the professional ensures that legal and financial matters are handled efficiently and correctly.

For larger or more complex estates—such as those involving business ownership, multiple properties, or significant investments—this collaborative model can be especially valuable. Contact us if you have questions about having co-executors or choosing them.

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